🦁 Do you blame yourself too much — or not enough? In management, it’s easy to take responsibility when things go right. But when they don’t, that’s where real leadership shows up. A few years ago, I led a project that missed its target despite the team’s best efforts. My first instinct? To take all the blame. I thought owning the failure would prove I’m accountable. But here’s what I learned the hard way — there’s a thin line between accountability and self-blame. When you carry the entire weig

Self-Blame vs. Self-Understanding Do you ever get trapped in shame, say things like “It’s all my fault.” “I’m the problem.” Self-blame keeps you trapped in a place of guilt, judgement, and shame. Self-understanding helps you grow with compassion, reflection, and creates a safe space to learn. Instead of saying, “It’s all my fault.” Practice this instead, “I was doing my best with what I knew then.” Remember, everyone makes mistakes. Self-blame often implies perfectionism, and healing comes from